Where do i start? Its 1:14 am. and i can't sleep. Im turning to strangers for advice on him
He is the most perfect sight my eyes have ever seen, his voice is like a thousand wind chimes. He is the beat in my hear and the spring in my step. He is caring, gentle, daring and also not mine!
We have been separated for almost a year and a half. We both have had relationships since ours ended the summer before last. We were together for a year, and i truely thought i had met the 'one'. I have never stopped loving him, and im afraid i never will. I think about him every day, every night, every mintue!
I recently grabbed the courage to drop him a text, i sat anxiously awaiting a text, my phone beeped. it was him!
I was over joyed, i felt like i was going to have a pannic attack!
We 'casually' text for about a week straight (by casually i mean i was a bottle of pop every text i recieved).
I rung my girlfriends for advice, they told me i had nothing to loose and to ask him out. so i text him proposing we went for a drink, he said it sounded like a great idea.
however, i text him earler today telling him i was free if he still wanted to go out. He said he was busy with work and that he didnt think it was such a good idea?!
I dont understand how a week ago he thought it was a nice idea, and now he doesnt?
He doesnt have a girlfriend, or isnt any 'relationship' ties. Obviously i rung my girlfriends upset again. They told me it was because he didnt want to 'fall in love with me again', My mother also told me i would be naive to believe that.
I need advise guys! I have text him tonight asking why the change of heart. But know reply, but i trully believe i will not be happy without him.
I think in order to give advice I'd need to know why the relationship ended in the first plce. was it mutual? Did he break up with you? What were the circumstances surrounding the break up?
You know when you have been in a relationship for so long things start to slip. you dont do makeup, or care about how you dress. sex doesnt become regular. well it was like that, and he proposed we went on a break because he thought i didnt love him anymore, when i truly did.
after a few weeks of the 'break' we had no contact and i thought rite this is it. so i did a terrible thing and got myself a rebound.. he found out and was deaply upset claiming he wanted us to be still together. I should have just waited for him because i wouldnt be in this situation now
They told me it was because he didnt want to 'fall in love with me again',
Are they 100% sure that's his real reason did it come from him first hand?
anyway it seems like you've really done a big mess before. But... that was before. If i were you don't rush him. If he said he is busy. let him be busy... don't expect too much about this whole situation. i know your hopes are too high but considering the fact that you hurt him that much i think he deserves to think about going out with you again. just befriend him first.. maybe try to talk about things that has happend before. get closure for what's had happened in the past. make sure evrything's behind you and him before starting to think about you and him together again. if you love him you can wait. just aim friendship first if he's already comfortable to see and hang out with you... for sure he'll call you up asking you to hang out. ok? good luck