Its only been a few weeks and the pain still runs deep. We have children together and she has me on edge everytime I see her to pick up the kids. I can't stop thinking about her. We were supposed to get married this next year, I have some tax and financial things I wanted to take care of before we did. I know I don't know any of you but really need some advice because I am struggling bad. I feel like alot of the reason why we broke up is because I wanting to much from her and she couldn't give it. (Cleaning up the house, making time for us, making time as a family, etc., With her son and my three plus we added on to the family it became really hetic. She would nag and so would I. I want to be able to be corrguil when I see her for the kids sake, because of the way I feel I always want to talk to her about rebuilding the relationship we had together. She tell me that maybe we can do that, but doesn't want to spend time with me. I feel she playing with my emotions she know that I can't go a day with out talking to her. I will tell her not to call and she calls anyway, she says things like she is just getting her life together. So I try to respect that, but I feel again that she doesn't love me. I am so confused by this. I have left out somethings, I want to know how do I avoid more heart ache. Sunday we talked and she come up with the same thing that she loves me and she is trying to get her life together, and if I can't wait for her then we shouldn't be together, so I told her that I am just going to let go. She texted me later that evening and asked if I was okay, I told her a lie I said yeah of course I am a prideful person. She said she was sad and that we have to do the right thing and she doesn't want to lose me, what the hell should I do I am on this emotional rollercoaster and its starting to get to me bad.
I feel really sorry for you!! I know you would be really mad if she keeps that up on what she does to you!!! But I don't really know what to do!! I usually ask my friend for advice and she gives me good advice.I hope nobody else has to go through the same thing that you are going through. I hope she gets over the thing that she is doing. And that she goes back to you and you, her and the kids live happily and forever!!!!
hi, i'm sorry for what you have been through. i know the pain is huge, but my advice to you is to give yourself and her some space. Just hold on, take your time and think about your self, about your life,, what makes you so attached to her while you are not happy in the relationship? are you suffering so badlly because you love her or because you lack the capacity to be alone, or because you are afraid to be alone?.. hold on with your pain.. it will get better soon.. don't try to make fast moves and first get your self some clarity of mind. and if you decide to go back to the relationship do that for the right reasons. in the meanwhile.. you both should take a good care of your children, they are not a part in this conflict. they also must be confused and need some answers and attention.