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Jaf
Posted on: March 4th, 2007, 8:49pm Quote Report to Moderator
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It is well said "It's love that makes the world go round". People get too much involved and preoccupied with this four-lettered word. With the absence of love(a particular type....got it? in their lives , human beings feel unsatisfied and incomplete deep within and seek completeness in total by getting involved in love, infatuation, flirting or be it mindless dating.
You must often be often confused whether you are in "Love" or you are merely "infatuated".

How do you know you're in love?

Real love is selfless. If you want the best for your partner you are in love some how..

Love is based on a deep understanding of the other person. You get to know your partner better over a considerable period of time and under varying circumstances

If your love is deep you will be able to accept the other person as he or she is.With all the -ves and +ves.



You will try to give him/her the best of you and support the other through thick 'n' thin

Love is also tolerant and forgiving. You will be able to go through your lovers varying moods and forgive slightest of the human errors.

Love contributes a lot to each other's mental, emotional and spiritual growth. You will have the perseverance to make your relationship stronger.

Love is definitely patient. It will not push the other into a commitment nor will it be unreasonably demanding. Love can wait for a relationship to grow and blossom

Love is confidence. If you are truly in love you will not feel insecure and jealous

Love is respect and consideration. If you're really in love you will also have a great deal of respect for your partner's emotional and spiritual needs

Love stands the test of time and adversity. If your relationship comes out of 'rain, hail and storm' unscathed you will get to know that you both are made for each other.

If ever in the due course of your relationship you feel as if he or she should be with you each and every time, or rather if you start getting possesive,then my dear you are caught in the web of LOVE. Many a times, in the new relationships we feel that we are in love but later we understand that it was infatuation.





What is Infatuation ?

Confused?? Whether you are in love or is it infatuation?

Here's what infatuation is?

Infatuation can be identified as a strong and at times overpowering desire for a person of opposite sex.

It is highly based on physical attraction. "Love at first sight" syndrome is nothing but infatuation.

When it's infatuation basically you "judge the book by its cover". If a girl is breathtakingly beautiful or a guy is irresistibly handsome - you do not care how she or he may be as a person. Yet you desire…

When love is skin deep you are extremely possessive. Since you neither know nor understand the other deeply - you feel insecure about your relationship.

Youll start believing in Charles Darwins theory which states"Human being is present on this earth to eliminate hunger and sex hunger" isint it

A relationship based on infatuation a relationship will be ridden with petty jealousies. This again reflects how little you know each other and how unsure you feel.

When it's merely infatuation, you will realise how little is your concern for the other. You will think of gratifying yourself first at the cost of your lover's emotions. In short selfishness characterises infatuation.

When you are merely infatuated - your relationship can never withstand 'the trials and tribulations of life. Like when a storm comes your relationship will be uprooted and will leave you standing alone…

'It' often starts with infatuation but the relationships that are strong, healthy and wholehearted drift towards maturity… and that is LOVE my dear.
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AngelFace
Posted on: March 30th, 2007, 4:20pm Quote Report to Moderator
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Very TRUE!! Thanks for posting this.
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joice
Posted on: March 31st, 2007, 12:04am Quote Report to Moderator
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well said....

this will be a great help!

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jenniewennie
Posted on: April 3rd, 2007, 12:59pm Quote Report to Moderator
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great post!

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800storm
Posted on: April 6th, 2007, 11:47pm Quote Report to Moderator
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well said, and i tell you that hits home with me, i truly love a woman who has gone off in infactuation mode with a man, we are the love yet she seems not to see it but still says she loves me, there relationship is a roller coaster and she comes to me very often for comfort advice and consoling, but she is also my best friend and i cant bring myself to tell her exatly what i see because i dont want her to be hurt or get mad and tell me off, we are so connected it is as if we read each others minds, what a predicament  and what to do, only time will tell i guess
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Kammy
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After reading this post i recognise that i was in love but how it end was not my fault and i ways blame me  for his behavior, and as it turns out i was the only one in the relation ship.It hurts to know forgove him even when he cheated.

WHEN LOVE BECKONS TO YOU FOLLOW HIM,LOVE CROWNS YOU SO SHALL HE CRUCIFY U
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xroadsempress
Posted on: April 17th, 2009, 7:50am Quote Report to Moderator
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It is sad that most people do not know how to distinguish what is what. Even I, couldn't sometimes. Infatuation is really deceiving. Thanks for posting this...it is really helpful.

A Jewel and No Half
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babyfazt09
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Before, I really am having a hard time distinguishing one from another but now I know what really my feeling is, whether it's love or just an infatuation. I think in infatuation you are just used to have him/her always beside you. Love is when you think of him every hour.

Are you ready for a relationship?
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saldy
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Quoted from Jaf
It is well said "It's love that makes the world go round". People get too much involved and preoccupied with this four-lettered word. With the absence of love(a particular type....got it? in their lives , human beings feel unsatisfied and incomplete deep within and seek completeness in total by getting involved in love, infatuation, flirting or be it mindless dating.
You must often be often confused whether you are in "Love" or you are merely "infatuated".

How do you know you're in love?

Real love is selfless. If you want the best for your partner you are in love some how..

Love is based on a deep understanding of the other person. You get to know your partner better over a considerable period of time and under varying circumstances

If your love is deep you will be able to accept the other person as he or she is.With all the -ves and +ves.



You will try to give him/her the best of you and support the other through thick 'n' thin

Love is also tolerant and forgiving. You will be able to go through your lovers varying moods and forgive slightest of the human errors.

Love contributes a lot to each other's mental, emotional and spiritual growth. You will have the perseverance to make your relationship stronger.

Love is definitely patient. It will not push the other into a commitment nor will it be unreasonably demanding. Love can wait for a relationship to grow and blossom

Love is confidence. If you are truly in love you will not feel insecure and jealous

Love is respect and consideration. If you're really in love you will also have a great deal of respect for your partner's emotional and spiritual needs

Love stands the test of time and adversity. If your relationship comes out of 'rain, hail and storm' unscathed you will get to know that you both are made for each other.

If ever in the due course of your relationship you feel as if he or she should be with you each and every time, or rather if you start getting possesive,then my dear you are caught in the web of LOVE. Many a times, in the new relationships we feel that we are in love but later we understand that it was infatuation.





What is Infatuation ?

Confused?? Whether you are in love or is it infatuation?

Here's what infatuation is?

Infatuation can be identified as a strong and at times overpowering desire for a person of opposite sex.

It is highly based on physical attraction. "Love at first sight" syndrome is nothing but infatuation.

When it's infatuation basically you "judge the book by its cover". If a girl is breathtakingly beautiful or a guy is irresistibly handsome - you do not care how she or he may be as a person. Yet you desire…

When love is skin deep you are extremely possessive. Since you neither know nor understand the other deeply - you feel insecure about your relationship.

Youll start believing in Charles Darwins theory which states"Human being is present on this earth to eliminate hunger and sex hunger" isint it

A relationship based on infatuation a relationship will be ridden with petty jealousies. This again reflects how little you know each other and how unsure you feel.

When it's merely infatuation, you will realise how little is your concern for the other. You will think of gratifying yourself first at the cost of your lover's emotions. In short selfishness characterises infatuation.

When you are merely infatuated - your relationship can never withstand 'the trials and tribulations of life. Like when a storm comes your relationship will be uprooted and will leave you standing alone…

'It' often starts with infatuation but the relationships that are strong, healthy and wholehearted drift towards maturity… and that is LOVE my dear.

good one
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